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Monday, August 9, 2010

Feeling Held

"Nothing heals us like letting people know our scariest parts: When people listen to you cry and lament, and look at you with love, it's like they are holding the baby of you."   Anne Lamott

My precious little ones
5 years ago, sisters meet for the very first time

Oh, sweet people.  I had to jump on here this morning & let you know how held & loved i felt with your comments on my last post...such warmth & sweetness. 

I realize that when i hold something back i am typically judging it as not good. So instead of looking at it and accepting it and releasing it out into the world, i hold it in and the yuckiness just gets bigger.  I'm realizing more and more that telling the truth really does set me free. It just feels good.

Thank you for listening and holding the baby of me.  I really believe that what we do for each other, we do for ourselves.  And what we do for ourselves, we do for each other.

Below are some words by Pema Chödrön from her amazing & comforting book When Things Fall Apart, she says it so well.

"It starts with being willing to have a compassionate relationship with the parts of ourselves that we feel are not worthy of existing on the planet. If we are willing through meditation to be mindful not only of what feels comfortable, but also of what pain feels like, if we even aspire to stay awake and open to what we're feeling, to recognize and acknowledge it as best we can in each moment, then something begins to change."   Pema Chödrön

and some more:

The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes. "   ~Pema Chödrön


  1. Such beautiful words to read this morning! I am glad you felt held, and that you were brave enough to tell the truth, and that the response was to be loved. I love those quotes by Pema Chodren. I am inpsired to pick up and dust off her book today. I love the picture of your girls--so sweet. Have a beautiful day, baby and grown up Julia.

  2. Oh I love Pema and that book. And that picture of your girls is breath-taking...


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