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Thursday, January 12, 2012

Doing It Differently

"You don't repair that relationship by sitting down and talking about trust or making promises. Actually, what rebuilds it is living it and doing things differently - and I think that is what is going to make the difference."  ~Patricia Hewitt

Doing it differently.  I've decided that (in addition to my little word) this is my new motto.  Every morsel of my being has decided I can't do it the same anymore.  What is it?  It is anything where there is pain/old hurt/old hold back/old, self-imposed limitations. I'm feeling this on a deep, physical level...I am finding that (in the midst of something where I would typical react/respond in the old-worn-out way) my body is literally getting up and doing it differently.  And since I'm having a tough time explaining this, let me give you an example.  

On Saturday night my husband and I had a date night, not necessarily something that is typical for us.  We went to a local restaurant/bar to eat dinner and listen to some live music.  A little bit into the evening, I noticed my husband (who was sitting across the table from me) was beginning to yawn. And, as I noticed him yawning, I noticed myself getting angry.  In my mind I was thinking oh, great, we never get to go out on dates and here we are out on a date and he's acting bored out of his mind....another mediocre evening.  

And then I noticed myself thinking about all of the other mediocre evenings we've had and how very tired I am of mediocre.  And while I was watching all of these typical/old/limiting thoughts (and all of the yucky emotions that went with them) permeate my being, I did something different. Are you ready for this?  I watched myself stand up and walk to the other side of the table, the side of the table where my husband sat, and plop myself down directly beside him.  And then....I watched myself begin to kiss him.  Seriously.  I can't really explain just how HUGE this was for me.  And can I just tell you something?  It changed EVERYTHING.  It shifted the entire evening.  He perked up. I perked up.  We listened to the music, we woo-hooed, we kissed a bit more.  We had a really good conversation where both of us really listened.  We stayed out past midnight.  And then we went home, and...continued to do things differently!  Whew!  Before we fell (happily) asleep that night, my husband said, I think I'm liking this doing things differently.  

I think there was some serious planetary movement that night.  I can feel the shift in every part of my being.  And I'm in awe.  

This is what I want most to say:  one single action, one single movement, one single moment of choosing to do it differently can rock the whole world.  How incredibly empowering is it to know this?  It's not that I haven't known this before, it's just that something has shifted, deepened.  And here's the thing...when we shift something in one area, it shifts things in every area.  It's a choice, a decision, a knowing that we alone have the power to change everything.  

And this is just one example...there is so much more.  2012 is seriously rocking my world.

Okay, everyone...I'm raising my glass right now (or rather my coffee mug)'s to doing it differently!  



  1. Thanks for this Julia!

    This reminder came in handy, just when I was having a very 'wobbly' day!

    Bright blessings for 2012!

  2. I love this story. You are amazing. Thank you for doing it differently, because that is where the magic is for me, and your example shines for all of us.XO

  3. Celebrating with you, my dear friend! Here's to date nights, and doing it differently.


  4. Hell yeah, girl!!! My glass is raised to you. Way to tune in to the BIG shift!!!

    Kisses to you and your fabulous husband!

  5. Julia, words of wisdom here, I just came from a meeting tonight about the exact same thing and you are right, it changes everything, I am so happy for you, amazing things for us all this year. big hug.

  6. Love this! Thank you for sharing a beautiful way that change doesn't have to be scary, it can be incredible!

  7. Thank you for sharing that story, I can't tell you how many nights I have felt the same way. I love that you made the decision to do it differently. Sometimes it's strange that it takes courage to do things that don't fall into our routine.

    It's so hard to break out of our little patterns. I'm sure it felt amazing that you broke free and changed your night, so happy to hear it :)

    I'm literally counting down the days til we come and see you in February! xoxo

  8. Heaven YEAH! I am raising a glass (of water) to that!

    WOOOO HOOOOOOOO to doing it differently. 2012 is rocking my world too. So thrilled to read this tonight sweet friend of mine


  9. I enjoy all your experiments but this one is a keeper! I think you should publish a series of "doing it differently" for constant reminders and inspiration! Love reading your honest thoughts. Linda

    1. I love this idea, Linda...thank you for planting it. Hmmm....the wheels are turning.

      So happy you're here.



  10. WOOOOOO HOOOOOOO indeed! that is a fantastic story and I am totally inspired! You go girl!!

    Tonight when my girls waken and want to crawl into my bed I am going to try to respond differently :)


  11. Julia, doing it differently paid off my lady! I'll have to keep this wisdom handy because I need it. It's like that Nike slogan only better... JUST DO IT... DIFFERENTLY!
    Sending love,

  12. Thank you for this Wisdom and for sharing your personal experience. I can't tell you how many of those "mediocre" times I've had...Here's to "doing it differently!"

  13. What a wonderfully inspiring post about how changing the little things can have such a huge impact. Here's to 'doing it different'!!

  14. Oh Julia,

    Thanks for your beautifully written story and for all the inspiration it sprinkled out to me.

    I love the idea of “doing it differently”.
    sending LOVE

  15. OMG. I LOVE you. This is one of my most favorite posts EVER. Thank you, Julia.

  16. Thank you for this post Julia. I am also choosing to do it differently in 2012 and your words have really helped me already. One of my favourite posts also. x

  17. Sounds like a plan! Thank you for the reminder :-)
    *raised cappuccino mug* Here's to doing it differently!


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